It’s a hard idea to fully accept but there is great value in “not knowing.” In our society, we’re so focused on knowing stuff so we appear smart and capable… being “in the know” is highly valued. The reality is that we can only grow in awareness when we start from a position of “not knowing.”

I remember the feeling I had while taking my Masters in journalism. There was so much ego involved in asking a “good question” in class rather than asking the question to which I needed the answer. I was a decade older than my classmates, having taken time off between my undergrad and my Masters, and I sometimes felt the need to show I was smart and capable, worthy of being in the class with them all.

At the same time, when I graduated from my undergrad, we were still using typewriters with three-line memory… and suddenly I was in a mostly unfamiliar computer-driven world and I needed to get up to speed quick! I learned to ask “dumb questions” to which I needed answers, and soon enough grew capable with all the new tools – computers, mini-disk recorders, video digital cameras and so on. Accepting my lack of knowledge enabled my growth.

If we are really interested in self-development, it’s necessary to accept that we don’t know something… especially when the thing we don’t know is some part of ourselves. Being humble and gentle with yourself, accepting that there are places of not-knowing, and learning to work from that place, can make all the difference in your personal journey of discovery.

If you’re interested in learning more about yourself, consider working with a life coach. You’ll find knowing yourself better will benefit all parts of your life. Find the right coach for you, and enter a journey into yourself, by starting with “not knowing.”

Feel free to get in touch with me for a chat about coaching or life: Trudy Chapman, founder and President of Chapman Coaching Inc. at or by phone at 613-282-6805.